You’re engaged, now what? A guide to what comes next after saying “yes”
You’re engaged! Congratulations! Just like yesterday, I engaged my beautiful, gorgeous, ever-happy, sweet and delightful wife! Oh! Pardon me, for some seconds, I forgot I am writing an article! Haha! That’s how it feels when you’re genuinely in love with your partner. Uhm! It was like a dream for her because she never saw it coming. Although we randomly talked about our dream family, but then, she wasn’t sure if it would be her with me, neither was she expecting it earlier. Women and their insecurities! The day came, and I can proudly say it was the best day of my life. I witnessed those beautiful love scenes I was used to on TV series, and not just me witnessing, I was the actor. Everywhere was colorful, red, blue, green, in short rainbow lights everywhere. All thanks to my mother, who earlier wouldn't stop stressing me to bring her my wife. In a nutshell, the entire event was breathtaking. And as I said those Shakespeare's beautiful love words to her, everyoneinthebuildinggottearsrolleddowntheirchicks.OMG!Whatabeautifulexperience! Andever since, my life has just been amazing.
That was my experience, and I am sure you will have yours too if asked. If you've recently been engaged or you are the 'engagee' and just witnessed one of the beautiful moments of your life, and are wondering what to do next, then this post is for you. Now that you've said "YES," it's time to consider what's next. In this blog post, we will guide you through everything you need to do after getting engaged, from setting a budget to planning your life and more. By the time you're done reading, you will have a clear game plan for making your dream life a reality.
Now that you've said "YES," what next?
There will undoubtedly be many thoughts racing through your head, including the fear of the unknown, unexpected problems, and unnecessary scenarios that may look challenging after being engaged, amongst others. You are human, after all, but it's best you don't allow such thoughts to ruin your joy. However, you must rst remove such thoughts from your head... Hey, bruh! You just got engaged. Take your time to savor those lovely moments. Cool o, so you can be able to face what is to come because the truth is there is more to do and more to come after saying yes. So what should you do next?
Tell your family and friends
The best way to spread the news of your engagement is to tell your closest family and friends in person. This is a momentous occasion that deserves to be celebrated with the people who mean the most to you. You can also announce your engagement on social media, or even send out formal engagement announcements if you want to make a big splash. Once you've told your loved ones, it's time to start thinking about all the wedding planning that lies ahead. There's a lot to do, but it's all worth it when you get to marry the person you love. So take a deep breath and dive into wedding planning mode!
Expect conicting Feelings
Don't be surprised or oended if some of your friends and family have conicting feelings about your engagement. This is a time of adjustment for everyone, so leave them to their demons. Haha!. Your parents may be grappling with the idea that you are transitioning towards developing your adult life, which will require them to "let go" a little, while your closest friend may nd it disappointing that you're leaving her or even envious. Whatever it may be, don't let anything less than joyful reactions derail your celebration. Everyone will gradually come to terms with the new normal.
Hire a marital therapist or establish solid communication foundation with your Partner
Okay, I get that the thought of premarital therapy may seem ridiculous. You're madly in love with your ance. You two can deal with anything. You never think you'll need therapy. Relationships, on the other hand, change with time. You will have a better chance of surviving life's inevitable storms if you have established a foundation of solid communication and a plan for dealing with any obstacles that may arise. Even if you don't undergo ocial marital counseling before your wedding, I highly advise you to set aside time with your ance to discuss signicant concerns such as money management, spiritual views, sex, children, what constitutes indelity, family diculties, and so on.
Start planning with your Partner
First things rst, take some time to enjoy being engaged! Savor this special time with your partner, and let the excitement sink in. Once you're ready, it's time to start planning. Sit down with your partner and discusswhat wedding you both want. Do you want a big or small wedding? A traditional or non-traditional ceremony? Brainstorming together will help make the planning process easier and more fun. Others include;
- - Start getting organized by creating a wedding folder or binder where you can keep all your essential wedding documents and notes in one place. This will come in handy as you start researching venues and vendors and making decisions about your big day. Start thinking about your guest list. This is one of the rst big decisions you'll need to make when planning your wedding. Do you want a large gathering or a more intimate aair? Keep in mind that your guest list will also play a role in determining your budget and venue choice.
- - Now it's time to start thinking about budgets! Wedding budgets can be tricky, but it's essential to have a realistic idea of how much money you'll need to spend on everything from the venue and catering to the owers and decorations.
Set a date
After you've said "yes" to your partner's proposal, it's time to start planning the next steps for your wedding. One of the rst things you'll need to do is set a date for the big day. This can be tricky, especially if you're trying to accommodate family and friends who may have scheduling conicts. Here are a few tips to help
you choose a date for your wedding:
- - Decide on the season and venue you would like to get married. This will help narrow down your choices.
- - Consider major events that might already be happening around your potential wedding date. You don't want guests to have to choose between your wedding and another event they already planned on attending.
- - Talk to your families and closest friends to get their input on dates that would work best for them. After all, you want as many of your loved ones there on your big day as possible!
- - Once you've considered all of these factors, it's time to pick a date and start planning the rest of your dream wedding!
Always communicate with your partner regarding your interest and desires, and ensure you both reach a lovable conclusion. Remember, you are in a sub-phase of your life that determines your lifetime, so give it your all while not losing it.